I just read a fantastic post over on Cheerio Road about dealing with impatience and anger. So many times when I am commenting on someone’s blog, I feel the pull to turn it into a post over here.
Impatience and anger are tough, tough, tough for me as my days are full, full, full.
I used to be a shouter and a thrower. Ask the ex-husband about the wooden spoon he almost took to the head when we were first married.
I’m still a bit of a shouter and poor Ems, she has inherited becoming MUCH of a shouter.
The wonderful point Karen made on her blog was how much can change by just acknowledging anger to prevent the anger from reaching the exploding point.
As I’ve made my way through this year and read and listened to my Buddhist teachings, I have started to work more on acknowledging and accepting my feelings the way they are because really they are all a part of me.
So I can say I AM angry. I AM frustrated. I AM overwhelmed. That it is OKAY. That it is a part of being me.
More importantly I can tell myself. I feel this way, it will pass. This is how I am right now, but it will pass. Breathe and know this moment will pass. Just as the good, so this too shall pass.
And it helps. Gentleness helps. A cup of tea helps. A lie on the bed with the door shutting the kids out helps. A shower helps. Pema helps. Blueberry cheesecake and chocolate helps but probably not in a healthy way.
But I have also discovered a wonderful tool from my daughters. Going outside and throwing beanbags as hard as you can. That helps too.