Everyday of my life I am a single mother. There is no father here. Has not been for sixteen months. There is very little father in general.
Yesterday at lunch (another post when more time), I actually mentioned the words “finding someone else”, meaning that my heart and mind might be open to letting someone else in. I think my exact quote was “If I’m ever going to find someone, I probably should leave the house more often”. Giggle, snort.
I perused single parent websites and blogs when I first separated, but found that over a short time that I didn’t really click there. I have one single supermama blog friend left and she just announced she’s getting married again, so well, cannot even count that one.
I don’t know why? And not that I really care. I just find it interesting when I really think about it. And I’m not knocking bloggers who blog about the single parent thing. I’ve certainly done my share of “I hate being the only parent” posting here.
I received one comment that I never posted that told me “suck it up, you live in a dream world and have no idea how bad other single mothers have it”.
I’m not everyone else, I’m just me. This is my life and this is my struggle and this is my learning experience on this great big blue and green marble.
Almost all my friends both here in the blog world and in life are married, though some were single parents at one time too.
But in the end after some thinking, it’s like this….
Being a single mother is what I am right now. I was a wife for eleven years. I may one day be a wife again, or not. But that is not what defines me. I am a blogger, a baker, a photographer, a locavore, a treehugger, a lover of a handmade life, a woman searching for a simple life and home, a wanna be homesteader, a mama, a daughter, a grandaughter, a sister, a friend.
In the end those things are the things that fuel my fire, light my soul. I am happy for the single parents who support each other in the single parent community. Everyone needs a “tribe”, especially a single parent.
I am proud to call each one of you here reading today a part of my tribe.